The first official day of “peak sex” is on March 15.
It’s a new concept for many women who are feeling anxious about how their bodies look and feel and want to get some extra time to take advantage of the changes.
A recent survey of 4,000 women in the U.S. found that nearly half said they’d like to have sex at least once a week and a third said they want to have it every day.
In many ways, this is good news for the millions of women who will be able to finally start having sex on an everyday basis, but there’s a catch: It’s the first day and there are a lot of variables.
How do you feel about the new changes?
What are you doing about it?
How does it compare to your old sex lives?
What will it take to feel normal again?
It’s all in the mind, says Laura J. Siegel, author of Sex, Love, and the Psychology of Sex: A Guide for Newcomers and Former Sex Workers.
The day has been named after an aphorism attributed to Freud that describes a woman’s sex life as “the beginning of the end.”
This week’s countdown is a perfect opportunity to think about these questions and to get a better sense of how to be a more fulfilling sex partner.
The first step is to understand your body.
It’ll help you understand how your body works and what to do about it.
There are some common myths that women are too easily aroused, says Siegel.
And some women are aroused by certain types of stimuli.
But she also warns that you shouldn’t ignore what you can control.
For example, your sexual preferences are not the only thing that matters when it comes to getting and staying satisfied.
In fact, your body and your emotions will have a big impact on your sex life.
So here are some things you should know about sex.
What are the first steps to having sex?
If you’re not ready to have intercourse, there are some basic things you can do to make it easier for you.
1.
Start by finding someone you trust.
The biggest risk factor for early sex is your partner not being sure you’re ready.
But there’s an easy way to avoid that.
Talk about your needs and what you want from a partner.
If you don’t trust your partner, you’ll probably end up feeling overwhelmed and afraid to be ready.
“We all have a story to tell,” says Jillian K. Jones, clinical psychologist at the Women’s College Hospital in Toronto.
“If you feel like you’re in danger, just give the other person a chance to tell you about their feelings.”
2.
Choose someone who understands what you’re going through.
Many women are scared of talking about their bodies, but some of the things they need to talk about are more common than others.
If they can talk about your body in a way that’s comfortable and accessible to you, you might feel more comfortable and feel better about how you’re feeling.
For instance, you don’ t need to be embarrassed to share your feelings about your period or to talk openly about your feelings around having an abortion.
Jones says it’s important to be able for your partner to talk freely about sex and the emotions you feel.
3.
Have your partner watch and learn.
Some of the best sex happens when you share what you know and the way you feel, Jones says.
“You can tell someone what you like to do, how you feel and what your body wants,” she says.
And while you may be worried about someone getting jealous or hurt, don’t be.
If someone is interested in a particular sexual act, you may want to say that to make sure they’re comfortable.
You might even be able a talk about the feelings of your partner.
4.
Make a plan for the day.
You can’t control when you’ll have sex, but you can make sure you have something to look forward to.
When it comes down to it, sex can be like a lottery, Jones suggests.
“Once you get your first blowjob, you want to know how you’ll feel about having another,” she explains.
“When it comes time to have a good-looking, well-hung, wet-legged orgasm, that’s when you want your partner.”
If you feel overwhelmed or intimidated by the day ahead, Jones recommends that you put aside some time to make your plan.
“There are so many things you don ‘t know about this time, like your body, your mood, how to use the condom, etc.,” she says, “so it’s nice to have an outline of what you’ll do and when you should be having it.”
5.
Get out there and start.
A few things you might not have expected about this milestone day are that you might be having sex for the first time, or that you may have never had sex in the first place.
“Some people may have been having sex in their early teens
